Relationships are far more complicated than in former times. Having evolved as a species, our needs eclipse those of former generations. Whether we want "the one" or "the one for now," factors by which people traditionally dated and mated are currently in flux. Humans desire meaningful connections regardless of where we are in our lives and personal evolution. The imperative of all Life is to advance and loved ones enrich that experience. The question remains--- as we advance, what form will our relationships take? Only when we know our disposition and core values, can we properly assess how to go about the business of dating in today's world.
Incumbent upon each of us wanting to connect with another is the honest appraisal of what we want. Exactly. If we don't know that, we'll be set adrift in a sea of confusion allowing our partner to force their desired outcome. Know yourself. Be clear about what you want. Be clear also, about your ability to function in the type of relationship you seek. Don't set goals you can't achieve just to capture someone. There will be no joy in that attainment. Set the parameters for a foundation from which you can be yourself, and flourish. Without that knowledge, you won't enjoy the experience of connection and won't advance in accomplishing your desires for partnership, no matter what form it takes.
My viewpoint on love and relationships opposes conventional thinking. Instead of seeing the acquisition of a lover as the goal, I see the goal as joint advancement through the vehicle of love.
When the point of love is to capture the "other," they become a tenuous target. Anxiety and torment accompany this formula. We can't control others. We can't make anyone love us. The rigors of this approach destroy any real love, that could occur. To play by these rules necessitates games and activates the ego in all its misery.
The purpose of partnership is to experience love and expand our ability to know love, within. It is only this part of us that is able to love--- the part that feels our love emanating outward. In loving, we experience our own life-force in its finest expression. From this foundation, partnership becomes the treasured vehicle of advancement toward greater consciousness.
All who participate in our lives carry with their presence the ability to aid our evolution. That is their primary purpose, and our primary purpose in their life. The potential within relationships is no less than miraculous. It's in the meeting of two souls, that the reflection of a greater image is seen. Powerful, magnetic, yet often elusive, we seek that mirror which will reflect our highest self in loving partnership.
The relationship fostered through love instructs and teaches the way of opening to all that is greater within, and all that can be achieved in union. It holds the energy of our finest moments co-mingled with the smaller moments of human reactivity. It is the vehicle of transformation and elimination, as well as generosity and selfishness. It is the balance of what we have become with that which we seek to become... ever expressing the Divine within the human, and the human within the Divine. When understood and utilized for its many teachings, we can grow to become our greater self via our combined selves. Relationship holds the sweetness of birth, growth and release within its framework. We learn through our love, to love and release. We learn the greater and smaller parts of ourselves. It is the mirror that reflects our deepest desires and greatest offerings. Love is the gift we give to ourselves, as we give it to another.
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