How important is the degree of your personal compatibility in determining the success factor in your relationship? Answer: Very Important. When it comes to love compatibility with your partner, there are several factors that you can consider. The list of factors below is by no means exhaustive.
Personality Traits
Every now and then, I hear the phrase "Opposites Attract". This might be true for a short-term romance. In the initial phase of relationship, for example, a man might be attracted to a woman who is of the opposite character to himself. He might be an introvert whereas his love interest might be an extrovert. Both partners might pursue their love interest with each other out of curiosity. However, as time flies, either the man or the woman or both, might start to discover that their huge personality gap creates much unhappiness in their relationship. If this initial friction is not taken care of, this might lead to potential trouble in the future.
The point I am making is that for a long-term stable relationship, there must be a certain degree of similarities in the personal characters of the individuals. This will ensure that there are certain grounds of commonality where each of the partners can share with each other. For example, both partners might like to go for a walk in a park or both partners might like to watch movies.
Daily Habits
Each one of us has our own ways of performing daily rituals. For example, the male partner might like to sleep and wake up early. On the other hand, the female partner might prefer to sleep and wake up late. Over long-term, this might or might not create problems between the couple depending on the degree of acceptance that you might have with your partner. Another common example is that one partner dislikes doing house works and pushes most house works to the other partner. Depending how tolerance the other partner is, this might or might not lead to potential issue in the future.
Money Personality
This relates to your relationship with money. Each individual has his own connotation and interpretation with regard to money. Are you a spender or a saver? Or do you tend to avoid having to discuss about money? Do you feel that money is something that is debased spiritually? How about your partner? Do you share similar or opposite money personality with your partner? Take an example, you might be a saver whereas your partner is a spender. This might create problem if there is a lack of awareness of the difference in the money personality between the two. For example, when it comes to shopping, you tend to think twice before purchasing whereas your partner might purchase whatever object that catches her liking. Obviously, this can create frustration and unhappiness if not properly addressed.
Life's Purpose
This is another important factor to ponder with regard to the level of your compatibility with your partner. Are you spiritually inclined? What's your ultimate purpose in this life? Is it to serve others and to contribute to society in general? Or do you tend to engross yourself to the sense pleasures? How about your partner? In order to be able to lead a harmonious relationship, you need to find a common ground with your partner. It will be more difficult and challenging if you and your partner are living lives on the opposite ends of the spectrum.
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