For many people, Valentine's Day, is the day when you may feel sad, depressed, or alone if you are single. However, with so many failed relationships, nasty break-ups, or unhealthy unions, some singles are seeing this time as a time to embrace their solitude. Ann Landers once said, "It is better to be alone, than wishing you were". As a single person, why not use this time to focus on the benefits of being single rather than regretting a past you cannot change.
Here are some perks you may recognize:
Freedom. As a single person, you can do what you want, when you want. You are not accountable to anyone.You don't have to compromise or negotiate.
You have the time and energy to focus on other areas of your life like your career, health, friendships or other self-improvement goals.
No in-laws to deal with.
Your space is your space. You can decorate it any way you like.
You can choose to be neat or messy without worrying about comments from your partner.
There are no emotionally toxic, co-dependent needs to deal with
Your money is your money.
You can go out with friends, drink and not worry about coming home late.
You don't need to stress about what your partner's friends think about you and if you fit in.
You don't have to wonder if you are settling.
Your time is your own.
You don't have to worry about breaking up with your partner.
You can create and visualize the details of what your future relationship should be.
Use this time wisely. Make a list of the things that are positive in your life today and work towards reducing your negative self-talk and eliminating the destructive patterns you tend to repeat in your relationships.
If you mistakenly buy into the myth that you need a partner to be happy, being single can be lonely at times. If, however, you look on this time as an opportunity to work on yourself, appreciate what you already have and make a plan to be an even better you; just imagine the kind of partner you will be attracting into your life, thanks, in part, to be single on Valentine's day.
I say again, if you mistakenly buy into the myth that you need a partner to be happy, being single can be lonely at times. If, however, you look on this time as an opportunity to work on yourself, appreciate what you already have and make a plan to be an even better you; just imagine the kind of partner you will be attracting into your life, thanks, in part, to be single on Valentine's day.
Rhonda Rabow, M.A.
Author's Bio Rhonda Rabow is an author and a psychotherapist living in Montreal, Quebec Canada. She has over 25 years experience counseling individuals, couples and families facing a variety of life challenges; from parenting, grief, depression, and self-esteem issues, to conflict resolution and marriage counseling. Her approach is empowerment and she accomplishes this by helping her clients find solutions to their problems and teaching them the skills and tools they need to feel back in control of their lives. She has also recently published an e-book called, "Discover the 3 secrets to living happily ever after".
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