Understanding the benefits and challenges of a soul-mate relationship
The benefit of a soul-mate relationship is the true freedom it may bring. We are given the opportunity to liberate our hearts from the pain and loneliness of our self-imposed prisons so we can evolve into our true wholeness. To free the heart in a relationship with another is the ultimate step in the healing and transformation of Self.
The challenge you face in a soul-mate relationship is to be strong enough, courageous enough to not only face the buried emotions- the pain, betrayal, distrust, anger, fear, insecurities, etc.- but to heal these through the presence and love of an intimate relationship. By creating a space of unconditional love and trust, you provide each other with a safe and trusted environment that allows healing and growth.
What happens often enough in a soul-mate relationship is the fear and pain are triggered in both partners at the same time. Because of this, neither partner are being held in the sacred space that is needed for the healing. At this time it is imperative that one or both steps back with this realization to balance and re-center themselves.
Qualities to choose in a soul-mate
Each partner must be strong in heart and character, nonjudgmental, with good self-control. Each must open to give and receive, playful and innocent, light-hearted and good-humored. The partner you choose should be courageous enough to allow their own fear, pain and weaknesses to surface without losing themselves in the release. It requires the courage to risk showing our vulnerable side of fears within the safety of our partners love and acceptance. The key is to know which is our "stuff" and which is our partners as sometimes similar fears tend to overlap.
The unfolding of the Divine in a soul-mate relationship is about ebb and flow- to love and to be loved. Both partners must be active in each others healing process in order for the unfolding to occur. Within the healing process, to love is to be present with unconditional love while your partner is in the phase of releasing the old negative emotions and fears as they surface. To be loved is to allow your own negative emotions and fears to surface while being held in the trusted space of unconditional love your partner holds for you. It is not about fixing one another. It is simply to be present and open to each other.
Communication in a relationship
Communication is of vital importance. Communication, both verbally and subtly, is the Life Flow in every relationship and should be used and respected as such. The Life Force of all relationships is unconditional love. When communication begins to deteriorate and true feelings are not allowed or properly expressed, the entire foundation of the relationship begins to erode.
Taking the next step when the relationship reaches the crossroad.
What is the next step when a relationship faces the crossroad?
The choice that is first made at the crossroad must be made with the Self. You must ask yourself whether or not you wish to take the relationship to the next level of healing and divine expression. If the choice is made to end at the crossroad, before the healing is complete, you will have grown only as far as you have allowed your fears and vulnerabilities to surface.
The healthy step is to reach the crossroad with the sincere desire to unfold the divine relationship so your life is free from all past conditions, beliefs and fears. To do this you must always keep in the forefront of your mind the ultimate goal- self-mastery and the evolution of the Self.
Anchoring the new paradigm relationship in this world
The new paradigm relationship is to be in the bliss of loves limitless expression, free from all fear and pain. It allows you to seeing the world and every relationship through the eyes of the Divine. The unfolding the Divine within the soul-mate relationship is the final step on the path to self-mastery. The purpose and evolution of Self is, in its purest essence, the return to an intimate relationship with the Divine.
Patrice Donnelly is dedicated to assisting those on their path to health and wholeness. "The first step toward the life you desire is knowing that there is always a choice."- Patrice Donnelly http://www.innerbliss-outerjoy.com/
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