Learn How to Write a Love Letter to Win Your Wife's Heart

It's been said that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, (hmmm) but I am convinced the way to a woman's heart is through her ears! A letter that conveys true love will last forever for her.

Today I am copying some of the recent interview I had with Dustin Riechmann of Engaged Marriage. He was one of our guest experts on the Love & Sex Tele-summit. I am excited about the tips Dustin shared here. You can learn a lot more from his amazing little Ebook - the 15 Minute Marriage Makeover. I already have some of the ideas penciled into my calendar and I shared the book with my husband, WHO IS COMING HOME TOMORROW!! I can't wait.

So here is an excerpt from the Love & Sex Summit. This portion is about the love. The next part of the interview was about sex.

Gina: Dustin, how are you?

Dustin: I am doing fantastic Gina. Thank you very much for inviting me to be part of your telesummit here. I'm very excited to hopefully share some very practical and powerful tips for everybody.

Gina: Yes, I like that about you. You are really practical and my husband is an engineering type guy also, although he jokingly says that he got a" football player" engineering degree or something. I've noticed in your blog that you're actually a pretty romantic guy at heart and so, one of the things that I enjoy is your tips about writing a love letter. Many people, especially the men find this idea overwhelming. So for those of us that don't feel like we're great at communicating, would you share some of your tips 'cause I do cherish the box of cards that I've received over the years from my husband.

Dustin: Yeah, absolutely. I think a lot of people overlook a romantic love letter and the power of that, and I think as guys were always real intimidated by it, and one thing I like to do is think back to the early days when you're dating either your current spouse or back into high school. I think a lot of us can relate to the love note thing, and that was a way that I know I communicated with girlfriends back in my early days of dating. But I think also there's a lot of power in that. My wife and I still have some of those earlier love notes that we exchanged in our dating years in a shoe box, and it's just a great keepsake. So, I think there's a lot of value in it and I think you can break it down very simply.

And so, I've got a five-step process that I share especially for you guys. I mean, here's the engineer coming out right?

Gina: Yes! Okay fellas, get a pen and paper.

Dustin: So, the first step I say is just relax and that meaning you're talking to your spouse here. There's really no pressure and chances are you haven't written anything like this recently. So, anything is going to be better what you've done. So, there's really no pressure here. Just simple and heartfelt, I think is the real approach to doing this.

Number two is reflect. So, all that is, you sit around for five minutes and really just think about some special memory or something that you'd like to share and I think for a letter, it makes it really easy if you just come up with a simple theme. So, say it's your anniversary maybe you want to compare your first kind of crazy year marriage to how you feel right now. So ten years later maybe you feel even closer than you did in that first year. On a birthday, maybe you think back of your favorite memory that you guys shared over the previous year. So just reflect and think of a simple thing to write about.

The third step is to rough it out. So, just sit down and just jot some short phrases about that theme. So just let your creativity flow a little bit. Again, you're not worried about all the details and it makes it really easy. The fourth step is to write it out and I say write with your hand meaning most of us are so condition to using our thumbs on our phone or our keyboard at our computer. We can almost forget how to write with your hand. But I think a handwritten letter can just be super impressive and super romantic, because it's so unusual. It's something that we just don't see anymore, and I know say your spouse is overseas are not someone that you can just handed to. I think that's again, the impact of receiving a handwritten letter in the mail can be pretty fantastic and then...

My last tip I say is recite and that just means to read it out loud.

Again, it's a letter but there's a lot of power, and actually reading this out loud to your spouse eye to eye, and I say that only because my wife and I experienced this as part of marriage retreat few years back, and I wrote it out and I thought this is a special and she'll like this. And then, when I found out I had to read it to her, actually I got really nervous which is bizarre when you had several children with someone and you share every intimate detail.
Gina That doesn't sound so hard and I have to say, we've never done that read aloud tip and I love it. I can see how it makes you kind of vulnerable, which is very attractive!

Dustin: Yeah.

Gina: Okay. So, next time everybody, instead of just handing over the letter or the card, open it it up and read it to your gal. You will make a huge impact!

Dustin: Absolutely, yeah.

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Signs You Are in Love With a Man - 4 Signs That Let You Know That You Really Love Him

There is a new man in your life and you know that you get a "buzzing" feeling when you are around him. It's one of the best feelings in the world and you find that you are definitely intrigued by him a lot. You know that when it's time for the two of you to be together, you just can't seem to shake that smile off of your face. The thing is, how do you really know when you love a man? Are there some signs that will show you that you really are "there" and that he is the guy you love?

Here are 4 signs that show you are in love with a guy:

1) You only think of him in positive terms.

Try as hard as you might, you just cannot seem to find anything negative about him at all. It's almost as if he is perfect and you just cannot get enough of that perfection. While you probably know deep down that no man is perfect, when you are really falling for a guy, it certainly can seem that way. If you only think of him in positive terms, then there is a good chance that you are falling for him.

2) You talk about him non stop with your friends.

This is one of the more classic signs that you are starting to fall in love with a guy. When you are with your friends, no matter what subject comes up, it seems like he is the only one that you can talk about. While it may start to drive your friends a little bit crazy, this is a classic sign that you are really enamored by a guy.

3) You tease him all of the time, just for the fun of it.

Teasing is one of the most basic, yet universal signs that you are attracted to someone, and if this is something that you cannot seem to stop doing... you may be attracted to him on a deeper level. Of course, you can tease someone and not feel that way, but when you keep doing it for the fun of it, it may mean something more.

4) You are waiting to hear him say those three words to you.

This is when you really know that you are "there." When you dream about him saying those three words to you, when you can almost imagine his lips forming the words, I love you, then you probably need no more signs, it is pretty obvious.

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Copyright (c) 2011 Alexandra Scott. All Rights Reserved.

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Compatibility in Love

How important is the degree of your personal compatibility in determining the success factor in your relationship? Answer: Very Important. When it comes to love compatibility with your partner, there are several factors that you can consider. The list of factors below is by no means exhaustive.

Personality Traits

Every now and then, I hear the phrase "Opposites Attract". This might be true for a short-term romance. In the initial phase of relationship, for example, a man might be attracted to a woman who is of the opposite character to himself. He might be an introvert whereas his love interest might be an extrovert. Both partners might pursue their love interest with each other out of curiosity. However, as time flies, either the man or the woman or both, might start to discover that their huge personality gap creates much unhappiness in their relationship. If this initial friction is not taken care of, this might lead to potential trouble in the future.

The point I am making is that for a long-term stable relationship, there must be a certain degree of similarities in the personal characters of the individuals. This will ensure that there are certain grounds of commonality where each of the partners can share with each other. For example, both partners might like to go for a walk in a park or both partners might like to watch movies.

Daily Habits

Each one of us has our own ways of performing daily rituals. For example, the male partner might like to sleep and wake up early. On the other hand, the female partner might prefer to sleep and wake up late. Over long-term, this might or might not create problems between the couple depending on the degree of acceptance that you might have with your partner. Another common example is that one partner dislikes doing house works and pushes most house works to the other partner. Depending how tolerance the other partner is, this might or might not lead to potential issue in the future.

Money Personality

This relates to your relationship with money. Each individual has his own connotation and interpretation with regard to money. Are you a spender or a saver? Or do you tend to avoid having to discuss about money? Do you feel that money is something that is debased spiritually? How about your partner? Do you share similar or opposite money personality with your partner? Take an example, you might be a saver whereas your partner is a spender. This might create problem if there is a lack of awareness of the difference in the money personality between the two. For example, when it comes to shopping, you tend to think twice before purchasing whereas your partner might purchase whatever object that catches her liking. Obviously, this can create frustration and unhappiness if not properly addressed.

Life's Purpose

This is another important factor to ponder with regard to the level of your compatibility with your partner. Are you spiritually inclined? What's your ultimate purpose in this life? Is it to serve others and to contribute to society in general? Or do you tend to engross yourself to the sense pleasures? How about your partner? In order to be able to lead a harmonious relationship, you need to find a common ground with your partner. It will be more difficult and challenging if you and your partner are living lives on the opposite ends of the spectrum.

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5 Romantic Movies to Snuggle Up To With Your Date

If you would like to watch a romantic movie with your beloved but have no idea which movies pass muster, keep reading. We have created a list of 5 romantic movies, complete with brief descriptions that you and your partner can watch together. This list is a mix of both old and new movies. However, what they all have in common is serious romance. Some of these movies, you will have undoubtedly heard of, others you may have not. Most can be rented at your local video store. Grab one the next time you and your significant other wants to enjoy a night of cinematic romance.

1. Titanic: Titanic is one of the most romantic movies of all time to watch together or all time. It is story of Jack Dawson and Rose DeWitt Bukater. The two come from different sides of the proverbial track. Rose is rich and Jack a poor and a third class passenger. Though rose is engaged to be married, she falls hard for Jack. When the ship goes down Jack helps save Rose's life. Tragically, Jack doesn't make it but his sacrifice lives within the heart of Rose her entire life.

2. Love Story: This is a story of a young boy and girl kept apart by their lot in life. One is well-to-do. The other is not. The two break up only to reconnect in a nursing home many years later, where Noah tells Allie the tale of their past love. Both Noah and Allie pass away peacefully at the nursing home, while holding each other close.

3. Pretty Woman: Pretty Woman is definitely a modern day classic. It features Julia Roberts as a hardened prostitute who is saved from life as a call girl by an initially very unattached and business-like Richard Gere. Gere plucks Robert off the streets and helps transform her into a beautiful lady and eventually his girlfriend. This is a classic rags-to-riches love story but it somehow never manages to get old.

4. The Notebook: The Notebook stars Ryan Gosling and Rachel Adams. The couple falls in love but is pulled apart by Adams disapproving parents. Even with opposition, their love manages to endure, but for how long? Watch the movie and find out for yourself.

5. When Harry Met Sally: When Harry Met Sally was an instant hit when it was released at the movies. It chronicles the story of Harry and Sally who are both looking for love. They become friends and later love blossoms or does it.? Watch this movie with your loved one to find out.

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Love's the Great Persuader

"A person convinced against their will, is of their own opinion still." The variations of this quote are many, as are the attributions to whose it is (Benjamin Franklin, Samuel Johnson, or Sir Walter Raleigh).

Front-of-mind knowledge of the above truth can save us a lot of heartache.

Still, we will go through our lives destined to try and convince people of truths we hold dear, only to have them rejected, point blank. Notwithstanding the hurt and frustration we experience because of this, we should now know how it feels to be 'persuaded' against the flow of our will. None of us like it.

There are only two situations, generally, where persuasion will work within the realm of possible sustainability.

1. WHEN WE ARE IN A POSITION OF AUTHORITY

Although it is not a perfect situation by any means, being in a position of authority or control - with the comprehensive sanction of those controlling the entire nest - helps so far as persuasion is concerned, provided we have the confidence and ability to assert ourselves.

We will be in a position to institute discipline, or tough love, where it's needed. Such persuasion necessarily enlists fairness, for no one bows to tough love easily when there's rampant injustice.

Given that most of us don't have such power or authority, the only sustainable option of persuasion open to us is through a softer loving influence than tough love.

2. THE 'LOVE NEVER FAILS' APPROACH

Why would we want to convince someone against their will when there's no love in it? Just because they don't believe our truth doesn't mean they are wrong. They have a different standpoint; a different logos, pathos, and ethos.

In other words, we typically believe what we know (logos), what ideas we like or are attracted to (pathos), and, the ideas held by the people we like (ethos).

So much for the truth; we are actually handcuffed to nuances of the truth just as much as they are.

In such situations - where neither we nor they adhere always to the truth - there's only one universal method of common respect. That is that we love people, as unconditionally as possible, such that they might become convinced of 'the truth' (whatever it is) themselves. In that is faith.

Love really is the only persuader that has any chance of working. Whether it's the agency is tough love, or the more facilitative softer love - influence is a tricky art.

The mode of love in persuasion is charismatically patient. It doesn't beat its head against the brick wall; instead it gently accepts what it cannot change. Longer term it's the most powerful source of influence because it respects the other person fully.

Given the fact that people will believe us more if they like us gives us the strongest clue - love's the only way.

© 2011 S. J. Wickham.

Steve Wickham is a Registered Safety Practitioner (BSc, FSIA, RSP[Australia]) and a qualified, unordained Christian minister (GradDipBib&Min). His blogs are at: http://epitemnein-epitomic.blogspot.com/ and http://inspiringbetterlife.blogspot.com/

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Does Love Have to Hurt Like This? Tips About How to Handle Mixed Signals From a Guy

It's hard to hear a woman describe love as being something that hurts or that stings or that totally confuses her. Yet, the sad fact is, it is also all too common to hear this description be used when a woman describes her relationship or her situation with a man. If you are feeling like it hurts, and kind of like you are getting mixed signals from a man, this article is something that you want to.read. It really does not have to be that way, and you can make it so that it does not feel that way anymore.

There is a big difference between feeling hurt because of the mixed signals that you are getting versus when a guy is being pretty intentional about playing around with your emotions. If he is being pretty intentional about it, then you may just have to find a way to move on and forget about him, because that really is just a form of emotional abuse. On the other hand, if all you are dealing with is a case of mixed signals from a guy, then you may be able to find a way to get through the confusion and find out what's really on his mind.

Here's how to handle mixed signals from a guy:

1. Do not take them to heart.

One of the best things that you can do for yourself is to just not take it to heart so much. I know that this is easier said than done, but sometimes you can really over think a situation and make it more dramatic than it has to be. He may not have any bad intentions at all, and you may just be over thinking things.

2. Give them back.

While you may not like the idea of playing games with a guy, sometimes it is the way that these things work best. If you are receiving mixed signals from a man, you may want to throw him off course a little bit and give him the same treatment. That may switch the dynamic up just enough to make him act differently and more direct.

3. Take the initiative.

One of the reasons why a guy will give mixed signals, is when he is not really sure about the way that YOU feel. He may be on the shy side, or he may be a little defensive about opening up and showing his true feelings If that is the cause, then you may want to take the initiative and be open about the way that you feel towards him.

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Recovery After Being Cheated On - Online Counseling and Therapy

Probably you've been there. That moment when you felt that the earth stood still, that your world was shattered into pieces, when you wish your heart would stop beating and your mind would stop asking "why"" or "is this really happening to me?!"

How to forgive, how to trust again, how to keep on taking the risk of giving again? Without doing all these, your life will always feel like a shadow of what used to be or could have been.

Many people I worked with in therapy realized, after some honest inner investigation, that they never really recovered from this kind of trauma, carrying confused feelings of guilt and anger.

Step 1

You need to gather information and to generally understand why affairs happens generally and why it specifically happened to you. At this stage there will be a gap between the intellectual understanding and the emotional reconciliation with the facts.

This analyze phase means that you will have to evaluate some of the hypocrisies you have entertaining about yourself, your relationship and life generally.

Hypocrisies about love, about your self image, about honesty, meaning and even spirituality.

The myth of monogamy, the arrogance feelings that we can never be replaced, the exaggeration that if the partner was capable of cheating it means they don't love you anymore or the extreme exaggeration that they actually never loved you.

The self delusion that you could never cheat on them. The truth is that given the right circumstances, almost everybody can be a cheater. Remember that moment when you were so attracted by that person?

Step 2

Understanding the reasons of why the cheating happened will bring solace. Admitting your own mistakes is an important step as well.

Many times partners cheat because they need a validation they weren't getting it from you. They can cheat because it's easier in times of personal crisis to connect with a stranger, with no strings attached, to share some moments of raw anonymous pleasure.

They cheated because the opportunity was there, because instinct overrides ration many times, because the animal within is stronger than the spiritual creature evolution has forced us into.
They cheated because we are reasoning apes and not falling angels.

And because they literally didn't stop to think too much about the consequences. They did it because they thought they will never get caught. Sometimes it hurts even the fact that they were not discreet enough as you to never find out about it.

The myth of exclusivity and monogamy is also an important player in this process. It is a very necessary myth, one that keeps society together and that forges history. At an individual level though, in the long run monogamy is a very improbable situation.

It's very hard to reconcile with this idea and probably better to not consider it if you haven't faced this situation.

Step 3

Forgiveness is a crucial part of the process. It will take time, don't rush it. After understanding the reasons that lead to the affair, the cheating partner has to take the responsibility of recreating the trust.

It will take sometimes years for the trust to be restored - 2 to 3 years is not unlikely. When an affair is not fully dealt with, it just gets buried alive and leads to an emotional distance that lasts forever.

The real "you" is the negotiation between past traumas and future hopes and ambitions. Therefore forgive, grow and make better choices.

Step 4

Building a new relationship

A new commitment has to be made, basically a new relationship has to begin. The previous relationship had been broken, you need to end it as it was and have a fresh start.

You are new individuals now, more mature, more complex, more aware. Probably less idealistic but with reasons of being together equally rational and emotional.

Compromises have to be accepted, re-calibrating needs and expectations. Wisdom and acceptance are the names of the games now.

Without these steps, shadows will always reign over the emotional life of the couple. Couple counseling is highly indicated at this point. There might be long standing issues that sabotages the relationship. They have to be addressed. Or you can keep lying to yourself but in time you'll get depression, panic attacks and an overall sense of lack of passion and magic.

In order for the relationship to continue it has to be healed completely. Don't carry the burden of disappointment, guilt and anger in your future relationships.

Love and relationships will always be a reality of your life. Take the time to understand this ultimate human enterprise. Without them, all your other achievements will pale and worth less.

Sophie Rinaldi is a life coach and licensed counselor.

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Sophie Rinaldi is an expert counselor and licensed therapist offering live advice through live chat or email sessions http://therapy-counseling.net/

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